Happy Monday Babes and Happy Six Months of Marriage to this cute man I get to call my Husband!
I truly can’t believe how fast the past six months have gone by. So much has happened… yet it feels like just yesterday, we were in Napa, saying “I Do!”. I guess time just flies when you’re having fun with your best friend!:)
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Originally, I was going to do a Post-Wedding Q&A but I decided I wanted to share a few things I have learned in our first six months of marriage instead. If you sent me a question on Instagram, I will answer them today, and if you want to read my past Marriage Q&A posts, I will leave them below!! Until then, I hope you guys enjoy this, can relate to it or learn something from it.
Six Things I Have Learned in Six Months of Marriage
How natural it feels calling him my Husband.
After two years of being engaged, I never got used to calling Colton my Fiancé. It sounded weird, and I felt awkward saying it. Like I honestly felt more comfortable continuing to call him my boyfriend….. so apart of me was worried that I would feel the same way about calling him my husband. Instead, the opposite has happened. Nothing has ever felt more natural, nor has come to me so easily to me in my life.
We Became a Team
Colton and I have been together for almost eight years. We dated for five, were engaged for two and now we are going on six months a marriage. So after saying “I do”, I really wasn’t expecting a lot to change and instead, everything has changed. I didn’t realize how separate our lives were, until we got married and started this new team. I thought our team was strong before our wedding, but it doesn’t even compare to the new one we’ve formed now.
Quality Time is Really Important
Yes, Colton and I spend a lot of time together, but I have realized just how important true quality time is for us and our relationship. Being able to give 100% of our attention to each other. Not just being in the same room as one another, working on our laptops or looking at our phones but being unplugged and spending quality time together. In order to do this, we’ve been putting our phones away during car rides and dinners, taking Bentley on long walks, actually going to the movies, as opposed to just watching Netflix, and choosing to run small errands together as opposed to splitting them up to save time. These all sound like such minimal things, but they have been very impactful to our relationship and some of my most favorite moments in the past six months have stemmed from them.
Communication is Everything & It’s Our Biggest Problem
It’s really interesting. For two people that love to talk, Colton and I have a really hard time with communicating. Not so much the talking to each other part (like I said, we have that part down) but the actual communication part, when it comes to serious topics, disagreements, worries, problems & etc. Looking back on past arguments, it’s crazy just how avoidable those arguments would have been if we would have just communicated appropriately from the start. The good news is that we 100% know that this is our biggest problem and is something we both work on every single day. We know that in order for our marriage to last, to work and the thrive, we have to learn how to communicate better.
This Is Our Journey and No One Else’s
It’s really easy to get caught up in the comparison game in general, but I have found it happening even more so post-wedding. Comparing ourselves to peers and other couples, asking ourselves questions like, “Should we be buying a house?“, “Is it wrong that we want to wait to have kids?”, “Do we need to stop traveling so much and start putting more away for our retirement?“, “Should we be moving out of state and really trying something new?“. These are all discussions we have had. Asking ourselves, “What is the right decision for us?” and in the last six months, I have realized there is no right or wrong decision because at the end of the day, it’s our journey and what ever path or decision we make, it will be the right one for us.
Just How Much it Means for Me to Officially Change My Last Name.
I’ve talked about this many times before in past posts but if you’re new to the blog or haven’t seen those posts, I’ll fill you in on the fact that I’ve had a really hard time changing my last name. Not because I don’t want to take Colton’s last name, but because I’ve just had a hard time giving up mine. Lauren Ashley Smith is who I have been for 26 years. It’s literally my identity and I’ve just had a hard time giving it up. I changed my last name for our wedding license, but I haven’t officially gone and changed my drivers license, passport, social security and etc. We’re married, but I still 100% go by Lauren Smith. I just haven’t been ready… but I think I finally am. As I mentioned earlier, when we got married, we started this new team and I’ve realized that in order for this team to work, we have to 100% be a team and we can’t do fully do that if I’m “Lauren Smith” and he’s “Colton Rando”. Separates names, banks accounts, lives and etc. It has taken me six months, but it has been really clear recently how important it is. Especially to Colton…. Ive learned that it is a bigger deal to him and to our marriage… so for the first time, I think I want to change my name and that I am ready. While I know that deep down, I’ll always be Lauren Smith, after six months, I’m ready to officially become Lauren Rando.
I hope you guys enjoyed this!! Colton, I love you and cheers to the rest of our lives!
xo,
Lauren
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